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There are lots of two-word combos that pack an almost disproportionate amount of power. As a lover of language, I am intrigued by a number of\u00a0possibilities.<\/p>\n

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• Think big.<\/li>\n
• Stand up.<\/li>\n
• Time flies.<\/li>\n
• Heart health.<\/li>\n
• Forever love.<\/li>\n
• Take action.<\/li>\n
• Make memories.<\/li>\n
• Think different.<\/li>\n
• See success.<\/li>\n
• Finally bedtime.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  These are all good examples of strong two-word phrases yet not one can come close to packing as much power as this one. Ready?<\/p>\n

  \u201cI\u2019m bored.\u201d<\/p>\n

  (Of course to get the full impact try hearing them pronounced like this: \u00a0\u2018I\u2019m bo-ooo-r-ud.\u2019 It is a sound that is particularly chilling for parents.)<\/p>\n

  [bctt tweet=”It is a sound that is particularly chilling for parents.” username=”AndreaPatten”]<\/p>\n

  It may be unwise of me to raise questions<\/a> about what it means to be bored: it\u2019s not something I\u2019ve often experienced. One of the reasons? I\u2019m chronically curious. When I decided to revisit old blog posts about kids, parents and boredom, I tripped and fell into a rabbit hole. It\u2019s name? \u201cReading about boredom.\u201d And guess what? It was interesting. I wasn\u2019t the least little bit bored.<\/p>\n

  To Study Boredom<\/h3>\n

  Apparently the topic of boredom also appeals to social science researchers. As with many research topics, the initial struggle was with definitions. The articles I read described boredom as an emotional or psychological state that can arise when a person doesn\u2019t have an especially engaging task or activity before them, is stuck in a \u201ctedious time period,\u201d or lacks interest in their surroundings.<\/p>\n

  I also learned the term \u201cboredom proneness\u201d and that there is a Boredom Proneness Scale. So, while many of us tend to minimize boredom as trivial, researchers have correlated it with depression<\/a> and other significant life issues.<\/p>\n

  Additionally, researchers tell us there are\u00a0three types of boredom:<\/p>\n

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  • circumstances are preventing us from doing something we want to do<\/li>\n
  • we are obligated to do something we don\u2019t want to do<\/li>\n
  • there are factors that prevent us from being fully engaged in the task at hand<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Ennui Among the Animals or Boredom at the Zoo<\/h3>\n

    As I continued to think about the topic, I realized that animals get bored, too. Our dogs, ranging in age from a baby to a senior citizen, love to go to training. They love the five hour round trip. Nobody (except the human) gets to stay in for the entire class, but each dog gets enough mental stimulation to make for a very quiet, sleepy ride home.<\/p>\n

    Not to be outdone by engaged pet owners everywhere, the National Zoo <\/a> now gives donors the opportunity to provide keepers with discretionary funds for added enrichment items ranging from food to toys and special scents for their charges.<\/p>\n

    I believe a high level of inborn curiosity vaccinated me against becoming boredom prone. To me, when that \u201cmeh\u201d vibe starts to creep in, it\u2019s a signal that my creativity needs slightly different time and space. It encourages me to check in with myself and my HALT: hungry, angry, lonely,tired. \u00a0It\u2019s a nudge to try stuff.<\/p>\n

    I guess that reaction is part of what makes me wonder why so many parents believe that boredom is bad for kids and \u00a0it\u2019s their job to \u2018fix\u2019 it. \u00a0If \u00a0we respond like cruise ship activities directors on steroids what are we doing for the kids? \u00a0What do they take away from our<\/em> behavior? What example are we setting?<\/p>\n

    Am I exaggerating? Just think about the number of times that, upon hearing this particular set of ‘magic words,’ you’ve seen parents leap into action. Like exhausted super heroes,<\/a> they quickly shuffle through their repertoire of activities, snacks, electronic devices, and other entertainment to find the one special remedy that will most quickly put an end to\u00a0the dreaded condition called boredom.<\/p>\n

    Unintended Messages<\/h3>\n

    We all know that actions can undermine and contradict both words and good intentions. Attempts to alleviate another\u2019s discomfort can be interpreted as thoughtful and kind and Boredom-Rescue behavior is no exception. All behavior can send powerful (and sometimes unintended) messages; intervening in our kids\u2019 boredom could be interpreted as:<\/p>\n

    \n
    • You deserve to be passively entertained<\/li>\n
    • Your uncomfortable feelings are very important<\/li>\n
    • Uncomfortable feelings should be avoided at all costs<\/li>\n
    • Someone or something outside of you is responsible for fixing your feelings<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      And even if \u00a0those aren’t their take-away messages, how much thought have you given to what happens to your kids when you\u2019re not around to entertain them? If we build our schedules and priorities around filling, enriching, and stimulating their every waking moment, how will the young \u2018uns manage being in a group or in a classroom setting? Or alone?<\/p>\n

      Oddly enough, I started working on this post before Covid-19<\/a>\u00a0\u00a0hit our shores. As people gradually start to understand how such diseases spread, they are taking responsibility for their portion of herd immunity by self-quarantining. And, in the course of staying home, some of them are feeling bored. That might not be a bad thing.<\/p>\n

      Quiet Minds, Open Minds<\/h3>\n

      I\u2019m a huge fan of new ideas and experiences. \u00a0Novelty is great for brain health<\/a> which, in turn, benefits us physically and emotionally.\u00a0We live in an amazing time with no shortage of things to learn and do and think about and try. \u00a0And, given the opportunity, we will discover our passions and interests. Maybe there will be powerful new interests. But in the course of pursuing those opportunities, we will need to manage more than a few uncomfortable feelings along the way. So will our kids. But to seize those opportunities we will need to make sure our hearts and minds are quiet and open enough to recognize and seize those opportunities.<\/p>\n

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